I was checking my facebook a while ago and happen to read one of my friends post. It was a sad story. Here how the story goes:

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce.. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now. The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again. In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage. This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning.. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Dew about my wife’s divorce conditions.. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.. My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office. On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time.. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her. On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead.. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart. That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed – dead. The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage! If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you. If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

Let’s help maintain our mother earth and go for green. Energy saving is very important to save mother nature because through conservation of energy, there less production of energy [nuclear power plant, usage of fossil fuels, natural gas] and emission of carbon dioxide which can contribute to pollution and global warming.

One important and simple thing to do to save energy is to turn off home appliances that is not being used such as television, air conditioned, lights and etc.  This attitude can really help the earth and a very effective way to save energy.

I also want to share this site that teaches us  how to conserve energy. The website is called Microsoft Hohms.  From this website, you can  learn how to reduce your home energy usage and start saving today.

To start up, you sign up with Hohm and they will provide you with a home energy report and energy-saving recommendations  to your home. Hohms also:

• Understand where your energy goes and how to start saving today.
• Compare your energy use to friends and neighbors.
• Engage with our active community to get tips and share your own.
• Build a project list based on how much you want to spend or save.
• Take charge of your home energy use and learn how to help our planet.

This site is a big help when it comes to conservation of energy. You can find information and tips on how to save energy. So, if you are willing to go for GREEN, then try Microsoft-hohm.com. Let’s keep the Earth GREEN.

]]> http://ritzchelle.com/2010/04/microsoft-hohm-saving-energy/feed/ 0 http://ritzchelle.com/2010/03/hug/ http://ritzchelle.com/2010/03/hug/#comments Sat, 06 Mar 2010 05:26:41 +0000 ritz http://ritzchelle.com/?p=2680

… gives comfort to my soul. Yes, it makes me feel that I am safe… feels like a baby that is being protected from harm. I don’t know but I love being hugged. ^^ Well, maybe because my mom and dad are not fan of hugging me… ^^ but it’s okay… I have my lovely “cup” who is willing to hug me.  How about you? How do you find hug?

What a hot day is today! I thought the sun would not shine but damn the heat of the sun is penetrating our house. So hot! I went outside and it was super hot! Feels like I’m on a full blast heating oven!

The world really becomes hotter and hotter. Have you noticed? I remember before that around 8am the heat of the sun is bearable but now? Even if it is only 7am, you can no longer bear the heat of the sun. So hot, indeed. I wonder what could be the possible reasons why our earth becomes hotter? Well, one thing I know “thinning of the ozone layer”.

Well, as a nurse I am concern of the effects of being exposed too long in the sun. It can dry your skin, eyes and worst can cause skin cancer. So, limit sun exposure… or use sun protection such as SPF lotions and don’t forget to wear those sun glasses to protect your precious eyes.

Remember, too long sun exposure is not health to one’s health.  Have a happy summer heat!

]]> http://ritzchelle.com/2010/03/summer-heat/feed/ 0 http://ritzchelle.com/2009/12/feel-comfortable/ http://ritzchelle.com/2009/12/feel-comfortable/#comments Sun, 06 Dec 2009 13:33:36 +0000 ritz http://ritzchelle.com/?p=2419

Sleep is one of human’s basic need. Sleep is as important as water and food. Without sleep, you will be stressed out and eventually go crazy and die. That’s why don’t deprive your self from sleep.

Have a comfortable sleeping bed that would surely make you at rest just like having a memory foam mattresses that is so comfortable and relaxing to sleep at.

Take a look at that mattress on the left. Isn’t it nice to sleep as comfty  as  having memory foam mattresses? Choose a bed same as that because sleeping is very important and this is a daily need. Get some good sleep every day. Don’t deprive yourself from sleep.

Look at my ritzchelle.com people. It is totally dead. What I mean is it looks dead without a good theme.  Because of this I lost my desire to write here unlike before.  Well, I could not upload a theme on this site because I am afraid that it will have a malware from my PC again. I asked my web hosting provider to upload one but I guess this is too much already. Uploading a theme is easy, I know how but because of this poor PC of mine… I could not upload one. Maybe, sooner when my PC is okay I can upload one unless my web hosting will upload my desired theme. Okay,  that’s all for now.